Deep Thought - From the darkest, lowest recesses of the mind

What happened to civility?

It's missing in our world today, along with kindness and respect.

Is it the false world that television portrays that has influenced people? Rudeness and insensitivity are called outspokenness. Sarcasm and putdowns are now considered wit. Self-absorption is called confidence. Something is terribly wrong.

Phyllis 2004-08-01 13:12 1177

IT's hard to be civil in a world where people aren't civil with you. I taught my kids and being nice makes you a doormat so it seems..

Azrael 2004-08-01 07:33 1164

Civility declined greatly after parents stopped actually parenting. The rise of extremist humanism and liberalism completely destroyed the idea of any kindness or honor once held dear, abandoned in favor of a more "me-centric" society... ...either that, or monkeys ate it. =þ

I didnt survive Minas Tirith 2004-05-11 11:05 1105

Civility? I stole it.

Phyllis 2004-04-30 22:03 1096

Actually something I have been thinking about lately is how when I grew up there wasn't much attention paid to why people act the way they do or the affect of abuse in people's lives. But then a time came when there was more focus on dysfunctional families and the affect of that and how we could deal with it more affectively and constructively.. I do think there is benefit in that...but..somewhere along the way we got fixated on it. I was watching this thing on TV about how this woman who had killed some kids in a wreck ..she clams her cruise control was stuck..well whatever..it was clear to me that she also had some major personal issues. I found it interesting that her husband and lawyer stood by her...the statement of the "lawyer" was I have to save this woman!..judging by her home she is doing Ok materially..I bet the lawyer noticed that too. and Why would a husband stand by..no offence men..but few would really do that considering how deep her problems were...she had made the statement that she wished one of the other children had survived and not her daugter? says something about her character..My point is...when are we People held accountable and how long do they get away with laying things on their dyfunction? I've noticed a direct affect on how stable people are and how honest they are..NOt saying its easy to overcome personal scars..and I'm not saying that is the sin..the SIN is using it for the purpose of manipulation and control..I just had this gut feeling that is exactly what that woman was doing..I'm sure I'm going to accused as unloving now...but take it from somebody who has tried to be a friend and had it used against me more times than I can count..I've learned the hard way...what dyfunction does to people...

Phyllis 2004-04-30 21:53 1095

I don't think people today are much different than they have ever been, but I think you are right amy. we hear and see more than our great grandparents did. They were always out on the farm and we are constantly having to deal with people..LOL..But it DOES seem to me that no matter how much love you show it gets thrown in your face. I just don't wanna react to all the crap going on..But I would add none of have the corner on Love and respect, we are ALL still learning. I'm amazed sometimes how somebody can complain about the lact of love and yet they themselves are rude and unkind. We need wisdom and sense of what is really needed and when. I think we are all pretty much alike...however...it would appear that this generation of people make it a way of life to be rude and self centered. I would call it human nature in the raw.

amy 2004-04-22 20:23 1085

was there ever really such a thing? or is it just that now we are more aware of it because we experience it more due to technology and media?