Vent - Let out your frustration

Misunderstood Intentions

Have you ever been involved in a conversation with friends and start saying something that gets everyone else riled? You mean well; in fact, your point of view is actually quite calm and positive. You attempt to share your views but for some reason it comes across as:

"You all SUCK! If you would just do this RIGHT, you could be more like ME. Sheesh! Do you not realize how much of a SINNER you are?!"

Of course, you did not say this. You did not even MEAN that. Alas, that's what they hear and refuse any apology on the matter.

But if your point is true and you're trying to help someone, are you really responsible for how they take it? Hmmm... another thought for another time.

I'm just sick of being disliked/jumped on for being misunderstood. *grrrrr*

Phyllis 2004-06-04 23:55 1142

the Great thing Dazey is that we have choices and we can use wisdom and are free to do what we are led to do..so many times Jesus couldn't do anything..so I think it's good to realize that what we WOULD do may not be convenient..there isn't always an open door and sometimes somebody is undermining it. so I've noticed anyway.

Dazey 2004-06-04 11:43 1141

I agree with Phyllis on this. Sometimes something needs to be said that might hurt someone's feelings. Sometimes we need to hear something we don't want to hear. Some things are true whether we know it or not, whether we like it or not, and whether we believe it or not.... Having said that, I also have learned a lot about keeping my opinions to myself in the last couple years. I heard an anagram that can be a helpful test of when to share something, and when to keep it to myself... T.H.I.N.K. that's the anagram....and the test is to ask yourself if the thing you are considering sharing is: True Helpful Important Necessary Kind and if it meets all those criteria, share away. On the other hand...if no dire consequences will come about by keeping this thing to yourself, my advice is let it lie. Chances are, someone else will say it eventually anyway.

Lyd 2004-05-21 13:49 1132

i've been in this situation before- just let them be. they will go away and think about what you said and then accept your apology IF it is needed.

I didnt survive Minas Tirith 2004-05-11 11:12 1112

2 Timothy 3:16

Phyllis 2004-04-30 21:47 1094

I KNow exactly what you mean kitkat. It hurts to be accused of being unloving because you are honest. Yes we are sinners and yes I agree it should be done in love. All the more reason we ought to examine our hearts so that we know what we do is in Love. I think its good to give each other a break ..after all we are all human. But..when it comes to the Truth..sometimes there is no convenient time to say it that sounds right at all. It just needs to be said. and this is a chat after all..do you hear a voice or see body language? I am amazed sometimes how much people draw from just words on a screen. And this has been said in Love I promise you.

table 2004-04-26 21:07 1087

truth should be shared with compassion

I Didnt Survive Helms Deep 2004-04-20 19:33 1076

Well, take whatever you said to that person and pretend like they were saying it to you. Would you honestly take it as a positive, helpful thing and be like "oh thankyou for pointing this out!" No, you'd probably take it as they're telling you what to do and that they're the ones who are always right. Just because something is true or "positive" doesn't mean you should say it. If you even have one little thought that says "well..maybe it would hurt their feelings" then that's probably a red flag not to say it.